Managing Anger with Therapy
We all get angry.
When to get help with anger?
While anger is a normal emotion, if you find there are times when it is out of control and is having a negative impact on your life or relationships, you will benefit from therapy. Because anger can be triggered in a variety of ways, this sometimes makes it difficult to identify precisely what the frustration is really about, which therefore makes it difficult to address and resolve.
Anger might come from stressful relationships, your development as a child, past traumas, or even simply all the little daily frustrations that add up into a larger reaction of anger. Clients often find that their anger has roots in more vulnerable feelings such as sadness, insecurity, or emotional pain.
What is effective anger?
The idea is not to “get rid of anger” but to manage and express anger effectively, acknowledging your frustration without harming your relationships, career, or physical health. The alternative solution of anger repression tends to only make the situation worse, sometimes leading to depression, self-harm, or even stronger emotions of anger.
My Approach to Anger as a Therapist
My goal is to help you learn how to express anger in a healthy way and develop new tools to physically relax and effectively communicate as soon as you find yourself headed into the downward spiral of anger. You may even find that your anger becomes helpful, allowing you to break old patterns and create change in your life.
As mentioned earlier, the anger you are experiencing in your life today could be a result of past life experiences that have not yet fully healed. This is when an integrative approach to therapy becomes a powerful tool to release this emotional pattern. I use a combination of IFS, dream work, Somatic practices, Brainspotting, and EMDR.
